WOMAN, DETERMINED
Creative Works & Advocacy
Category: Abuse Against Women
Skip Down Memory Lane
Because that’s where I left my heart My first blog, years ago, was called Something She Wrote. You could enter that phrase into your search bar and find it online; still read the old me. Not sure you’d want to. I don’t. That gal… Continue Reading “Skip Down Memory Lane”
Which Half of the Equation Needs to Be Fixed?
So it’s ALWAYS going to be in a survivor’s best interest to learn how to heal and create a new life for herself after abuse. That’s how she gets her power back. Moving on is “revenge.” But survivors need outspoken and aggressive allies, too.… Continue Reading “Which Half of the Equation Needs to Be Fixed?”
Your Own Grace
Survivor, you deserve and owe yourself all the grace in the world. Please remember as you find your backbone, and stabilize your emotions, and learn how to be firm — even “bitchy,” as some will interpret when and where your newfound boundaries demand a… Continue Reading “Your Own Grace”
To Be or Not to Be Quiet About Abuse
We’ve talked about it before, about how we are shamed and scared into silence by our abusers and our attorneys and the family courts system. We’ve also talked about how being too bold with what we share, especially if we’re involved with family court,… Continue Reading “To Be or Not to Be Quiet About Abuse”
What Does It Mean If I Miss My Abuser?
The truth is, you don’t miss your abuser. Not really. It just feels like it because your hurt over being treated so grossly is so big. You miss who they initially pretended to be and hooked you with, and/or the person you wanted them… Continue Reading “What Does It Mean If I Miss My Abuser?”
Are single men and dads financially abused?
There’s a pattern. Some will read this as broad generalization, but the patterns exist because of the patriarchy, because of domestic and financial abuse, and because of how family courts cater to the men who lie about their income and ability to provide for… Continue Reading “Are single men and dads financially abused?”
Throw Meatloaf, Not Axes
You know those ax throwing places? Hear me out. It’s like that except only for DV survivors, and it’s a three-parter… Room 1 is filled with quiet, kind chefs who walk you through a recipe, from selection to completion. You take pictures of your… Continue Reading “Throw Meatloaf, Not Axes”
When Bystanders Think You Gave Your Abuser Permission
More victim blaming and shaming. Bystanders love that sh*t, because they think they have it all figured out, and also because they don’t know any better. Survivors do know better. We know that we are in control of very little during the abuse. This… Continue Reading “When Bystanders Think You Gave Your Abuser Permission”
About that Thing Abusers (and Enablers) Like to Call “Parental Alienation”
Originally posted on Breaking the Silence for Women 11/6/21. This morning I woke to notification of a comment that has since been deleted by its writer. That’s okay. Either they decided not to risk a public comment that the wrong people might see, or… Continue Reading “About that Thing Abusers (and Enablers) Like to Call “Parental Alienation””
But You’re Over It, Right?
If you haven’t experienced this yet, you will. Someone you’re getting to know, and starting to feel comfortable telling The Story of You to, will interrupt and say, “But you’re over it, right?” “It” being the abuse you endured for months, possible years. And… Continue Reading “But You’re Over It, Right?”
WOMAN, DETERMINED 