I have a habit of wishing those who upset me a hearty “F*ck you” in my head.
And while I will always insist that anger has a healthy place in our healing, that we should both respect and allow it, I can also acknowledge that I have personally continued to carry unresolved anger for too long. That ISN’T healthy.
So I’m working on making a shift.
The most recent tool in my arsenal that’s helping with this shift is a book by Jay Shetty. It’s called Think Like a Monk: Train Your Mind for Peace and Purpose Every Day.
[Another book crucial to this conversation and our healing is The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner. Please check that one out, too.]
Shetty’s teachings are powerful and empowering. Nothing too heavy. Nothing too difficult to apply when one is willing for the sake of personal growth.
I can’t remember which piece of his advice led me to make this small and empowering shift, but now,
instead of thinking, cursing, hurling, “F*ck you, <insert name here>,”
I’m more peacefully, in a detached way, thinking, “Go live the life you have made.”
This feels a little less ragey inside. It feels like I’m giving control over to karma, and like it removes me from emotional investment in whatever those who upset me are doing that is unfair, hateful, hurtful… which I like a lot, since I don’t have time for that. I’m too busy living the life I’ve made!
So I’m going to keep working on it.
Want to try it with me?