It’s not easy being single. It’s particularly tough being single after an abusive marriage or relationship, wherein you were denied the basic wants and needs of love, warmth, and respect. It’s simple — and absolutely …
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How to Talk Yourself Through Loneliness After Leaving Abuse
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An Illustration of Growth
My fifteen-year-old daughter is in her high school’s show choir. These talented teens audition each spring, and they find out who makes the cut before summer break. Then, as the new school year begins, …
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NEW FEATURE: Friday Q&A 3
Q | How can you know what an abuser is really capable of, or what extreme he’ll go to? [Disclaimer: My answers for this feature are based on a mixture of personal experience, training …
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| Survivor Snapshot | Freedom Realized
“My eyes quickly scan the store, a safety precaution I’ve obsessively adopted. As we pass the coffee bar my eyes pass over a man dressed in black, just another character among the many seen in …
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NEW FRIDAY FEATURE: Abuse Q&A 1
Q: How can I help someone who is in an abusive relationship but cannot/will not leave? [Disclaimer: My answers for this feature are based on a mixture of personal experience, training with a women’s …
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| Survivor Snapshot | The Pattern Started Early
“It all started when I was fourteen years old and he was the only guy in school that gave me attention. He had a girlfriend, I knew that but she went to a different school …
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| Survivor Snapshot | He Made Me Feel Ugly
“I was with my abuser for over a decade. Not once during more than 5000 days together did he say I was beautiful.” | Pretty Now | Submit your own Survivor Snapshot through this page’s …
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What Does Your Abuser Look Like?
“He was active at church. We lived at a private lake, owned waterfront property, and always had a boat and toys. He was self-employed. He was a steward and Samaritan. He had a lot of …
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| Survivor Snapshot | He Made Me Get a Job (Then I Won)
“I’d been a stay-at-home-mom for years. Raising our two kids and doing all those household things, the ‘woman’s responsibility.’ And then once both kids got to school age, he decided it was time I ‘contributed.’ …
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| Survivor Snapshot | Before It Gets Better
“I got out of bed this morning. ‘ Sure, it’s an every day mundane task for most, but these days it’s quite an accomplishment for me when I find that most days every part of …
