Category: Advice
Posted on June 12, 2021
by Janna
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This afternoon I received a message with a picture. It was from a friend and survivor I’ve been coaching as she establishes her own household. It hasn’t been long since she left her abuser, so every inch of change and progress is a small… Continue Reading “Little Rebellions, Big Impact”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, healing, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on June 9, 2021
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Show me a woman who uses her voice to speak for others, and I’ll show you a woman who gets attacked by misguided bullies and internet trolls. When you decide to take a path in advocacy, you’ve got to have thick skin. You have… Continue Reading “Lessons for an Advocate”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: advocacy, advocate, bullies, chaos, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, gaining power, gaslighting, internet trolls, keeping peace, manipulation, predators, purpose, social media
Posted on June 5, 2021
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Ten years ago I moved out, filed for divorce, and started over. In those ten years I have: criedfought for myselfcelebratedbeen challengedfailedralliedfound my real selfbeen consumed by doubthelped other womenset boundariesloveddone a lot of things by myself for the first time everheld onto hopenetworked… Continue Reading “Summer Anniversary”
Category: Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: anniversary, domestic abuse, healing, learning, survivor
Posted on June 4, 2021
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The living room is bare but for her secondhand couch, a lone end table, and the anxiety she just can’t shake. He isn’t supposed to visit where she lives now, but that doesn’t still the race in her heart. Will he show up at… Continue Reading “When Power Becomes Hers | flash fiction”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Books & Resources, Living Your Own Life, Self EmpowermentTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, gaslighting, healing, intimidation, knowledge is power, narcissistic abuse, physical abuse, reading, self help, starting over, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on February 21, 2021
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THE TRUTH BEHIND FINANCIAL ABUSE | Samantha has started seeing the patterns when it comes to money. “He spends freely on himself, like on his toys and fun stuff and trips with the guys, but if I spend money — even on household needs… Continue Reading “Why is Money So Important to My Abuser?”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Personality Disorders (abusive), Self EmpowermentTags: abusive relationships, allowance, control, debt, financial abuse, isolation, loans, money, narcissistic abuse, Narcissists, personal loans, power, power and control, stunted development
Posted on January 31, 2021
by Janna
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MY FRIEND NEEDS TO LEAVE HER ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP | Landen G. recently reached out to ask how to support a good friend who admits that her partner is abusive. [Statements edited slightly for flow.] “How do I encourage her to seek help?” LG asks.… Continue Reading “What to Do When Your Friend or Loved One Confides About Abuse”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuser, being a supportive friend, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, healing, helping a loved one, journey, physical violence, psychological abuse, strength, survivor
Posted on January 24, 2021
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SOMETIMES THE ABUSE OF YESTERDAY WANTS TO VISIT TODAY | It’s been years since Mocha Girl ended the relationship that was so hurtful for her. She’s married to a good man now and they’re happy. So what’s with the triggers? In her own words:… Continue Reading “Facing Triggers from Your Past”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, addressing the past, emotional abuse, emotional health, healing, new relationships after abuse, progress, self-awareness, self-empowerment, starting over after abuse, survivor, survivors of domestic abuse, taking back control, therapy, trauma, triggers
Posted on January 17, 2021
by Janna
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UNITY FOLLOWING ABUSE IS NOT POSSIBLE | When a woman leaves her abusive partner — that is, truly leaves after however many prior attempts, and has finally made it clear she will not return to the relationship — he will try, with his arsenal… Continue Reading “Survivor Healing Cannot Begin with the Abuser at the Helm”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Opinion, Self EmpowermentTags: abuse tactics, Democrats, disinformation, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, friendship, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, misinformation, projection, Republicans, Trump, Trumpism, unity
Posted on January 7, 2021
by Janna
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WHEN YOUR ABUSER DIES | It was a long marriage that included physical violence, infidelity, and financial abuse — along with the standard psychological tactics, like love bombing, gaslighting, and manipulation. So given everything her husband put her through, and the destructive aftermath he’s responsible for,… Continue Reading “Widow Misses Dead Abuser”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, OpinionTags: abuser death, acute loss, after abuse, death, Domestic Violence, financial abuse, gaslighting, grief, infidelity, left behind, legend, love bombing, manipulation, myth, nostalgia, physical violence, psychological abuse, starting over, widow
Posted on January 2, 2021
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A DV CASEWORKER MISTREATS A CLIENT | Mama M from Kentucky says, “My question is in regard to staying in a domestic violence shelter. What do you do when you’re mistreated by one of the caseworkers? They mocked me and played psychological warfare to… Continue Reading “Caseworker Mistreatment”
Category: Advice, Advocacy & Education, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, advocacy, advocating, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, DV, DV caseworkers, DV shelters, empowerment, self-empowerment
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