Category: Opinion

Sunday Spirituality

People assume it’s the hard wood of a church pew that makes it so uncomfortable for long periods. But a woman who’s had to listen to a sermon about love and kindness and humility and doing for others and forgiveness, etc., etc., while sitting… Continue Reading “Sunday Spirituality”

Little Rebellions, Big Impact

This afternoon I received a message with a picture. It was from a friend and survivor I’ve been coaching as she establishes her own household. It hasn’t been long since she left her abuser, so every inch of change and progress is a small… Continue Reading “Little Rebellions, Big Impact”

Lessons for an Advocate

Show me a woman who uses her voice to speak for others, and I’ll show you a woman who gets attacked by misguided bullies and internet trolls. When you decide to take a path in advocacy, you’ve got to have thick skin. You have… Continue Reading “Lessons for an Advocate”

Summer Anniversary

Ten years ago I moved out, filed for divorce, and started over. In those ten years I have: criedfought for myselfcelebratedbeen challengedfailedralliedfound my real selfbeen consumed by doubthelped other womenset boundariesloveddone a lot of things by myself for the first time everheld onto hopenetworked… Continue Reading “Summer Anniversary”

What to Do When Your Friend or Loved One Confides About Abuse

MY FRIEND NEEDS TO LEAVE HER ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP | Landen G. recently reached out to ask how to support a good friend who admits that her partner is abusive. [Statements edited slightly for flow.] “How do I encourage her to seek help?” LG asks.… Continue Reading “What to Do When Your Friend or Loved One Confides About Abuse”

Survivor Healing Cannot Begin with the Abuser at the Helm

UNITY FOLLOWING ABUSE IS NOT POSSIBLE | When a woman leaves her abusive partner — that is, truly leaves after however many prior attempts, and has finally made it clear she will not return to the relationship — he will try, with his arsenal… Continue Reading “Survivor Healing Cannot Begin with the Abuser at the Helm”

Widow Misses Dead Abuser

WHEN YOUR ABUSER DIES | It was a long marriage that included physical violence, infidelity, and financial abuse — along with the standard psychological tactics, like love bombing, gaslighting, and manipulation. So given everything her husband put her through, and the destructive aftermath he’s responsible for,… Continue Reading “Widow Misses Dead Abuser”

The Old Me Would Have Been a Trump Supporter

MINDSET THAT LEADS TO TRUMPISM | And why I cannot accept a world where Trump reigns [As published on Medium… full essay linked below the excerpt.] As we near the end of Donald Trump’s single-term presidency, only one thing is more clear to me… Continue Reading “The Old Me Would Have Been a Trump Supporter”