Category: Living Your Own Life

Lessons for an Advocate

Show me a woman who uses her voice to speak for others, and I’ll show you a woman who gets attacked by misguided bullies and internet trolls. When you decide to take a path in advocacy, you’ve got to have thick skin. You have… Continue Reading “Lessons for an Advocate”

Summer Anniversary

Ten years ago I moved out, filed for divorce, and started over. In those ten years I have: criedfought for myselfcelebratedbeen challengedfailedralliedfound my real selfbeen consumed by doubthelped other womenset boundariesloveddone a lot of things by myself for the first time everheld onto hopenetworked… Continue Reading “Summer Anniversary”

When Power Becomes Hers | flash fiction

The living room is bare but for her secondhand couch, a lone end table, and the anxiety she just can’t shake. He isn’t supposed to visit where she lives now, but that doesn’t still the race in her heart. Will he show up at… Continue Reading “When Power Becomes Hers | flash fiction”

Why is Money So Important to My Abuser?

THE TRUTH BEHIND FINANCIAL ABUSE | Samantha has started seeing the patterns when it comes to money. “He spends freely on himself, like on his toys and fun stuff and trips with the guys, but if I spend money — even on household needs… Continue Reading “Why is Money So Important to My Abuser?”

What to Do When Your Friend or Loved One Confides About Abuse

MY FRIEND NEEDS TO LEAVE HER ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP | Landen G. recently reached out to ask how to support a good friend who admits that her partner is abusive. [Statements edited slightly for flow.] “How do I encourage her to seek help?” LG asks.… Continue Reading “What to Do When Your Friend or Loved One Confides About Abuse”

Facing Triggers from Your Past

SOMETIMES THE ABUSE OF YESTERDAY WANTS TO VISIT TODAY | It’s been years since Mocha Girl ended the relationship that was so hurtful for her. She’s married to a good man now and they’re happy. So what’s with the triggers? In her own words:… Continue Reading “Facing Triggers from Your Past”

Widow Misses Dead Abuser

WHEN YOUR ABUSER DIES | It was a long marriage that included physical violence, infidelity, and financial abuse — along with the standard psychological tactics, like love bombing, gaslighting, and manipulation. So given everything her husband put her through, and the destructive aftermath he’s responsible for,… Continue Reading “Widow Misses Dead Abuser”