Posted on July 19, 2022
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It’s never happened to me with a book before. (Movies, though, more times than I can count.) I bought this one in May while on vacation but only recently started reading. It’s 482 pages. Published in 2016. The plot was all brand new until… Continue Reading “You Could Call It a “Mystery” Book”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Books & Resources, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse, abusive relationships, advocacy, after abuse, anxiety, books, DV, fiction, forgetfulness, gaslighting, healing, Nicholas Sparks, post-separation abuse, projection, psychological abuse, reading, self-care, stonewalling, survivor, trauma
Posted on June 8, 2022
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My best friend collects heart-shaped rocks. I’m not sure you would believe the sheer amount and variety her devotion has rendered. It’s impressive, and makes one want to start their own collection. She gave me this one. Can you guess why by the visual?… Continue Reading “Tattered Hearts and Their Repairers”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: after abuse, broken, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, healing, hurting, intimate partner violence, narcissistic abuse, psychological abuse, save ourselves, surviving, survivor, trauma
Posted on June 7, 2022
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I gave this pep talk to my kid this morning, and it just occurred to me that you might need to hear it, too. (I’ve tweaked it some, since you’re probably not an almost-17yo dude. But I watched as enlightenment crossed his face, and… Continue Reading ““Am I Being Annoying? Do They Hate Me?” | No, It’s a Trauma Response”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: anxiety, brainswashing, coercion, conditioning, control, education, emotional abuse, empowerment, fear, gaslighting, healing, mental abuse, psychological abuse, survivor, trauma, trauma responses
Posted on May 7, 2022
by Janna
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Okay, so your abuser had a traumatic childhood. Something life-changing, perhaps horrifying, happened to them. The stuff nightmares are made of. It was out of their control. Or maybe they were, for example, raised by a detached, materialistic father and callous, dismissive mother, so… Continue Reading “Your Abuser’s Trauma is No Excuse”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, childhood trauma, control, coping techniques, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, starting over after abuse, survivor, therapy, trauma
Posted on March 28, 2022
by Janna
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(from a white woman) I feel like, given my platform, I have to say at least this: I’ve long adored Will Smith, and as a fairly devout fan I’m overwhelmed by disappointment. But that disappointment is underpinned by the fact that I carry an… Continue Reading “On Will Smith”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, Chris Rock, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, family trauma, gaslighting, healing, Jada Pinkett Smith, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, Oscars, starting over after abuse, survivor, trauma, violence, Will Smith
Posted on January 24, 2021
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SOMETIMES THE ABUSE OF YESTERDAY WANTS TO VISIT TODAY | It’s been years since Mocha Girl ended the relationship that was so hurtful for her. She’s married to a good man now and they’re happy. So what’s with the triggers? In her own words:… Continue Reading “Facing Triggers from Your Past”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, addressing the past, emotional abuse, emotional health, healing, new relationships after abuse, progress, self-awareness, self-empowerment, starting over after abuse, survivor, survivors of domestic abuse, taking back control, therapy, trauma, triggers
WOMAN, DETERMINED 