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Posted on March 7, 2023
by Janna
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Their world is slowly but definitely imploding, you can trust me on that. You may not witness the fall today or tomorrow, but it’s going to happen. Because when you build your life around hurting othersmanipulating the truthstealing money &ruining your creditburning bridgesbreaking the… Continue Reading “Karma & Consequence”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personality Disorders (abusive), Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, breaking the law, burning bridges, consequence, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, karma, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, smoke and mirrors, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on February 25, 2023
by Janna
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An unpopular opinion. I think we should be single for as long as we were in the abusive relationship. Will this always be the ruler by which to measure our healing and health and readiness? No, definitely not. Because a short-term abusive relationship (half… Continue Reading “Dating After Domestic Abuse: Stay Single for as Long as You Were Abused”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: being single, breaking cycles, breaking patterns, dating, dating after domestic abuse, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, healing, independence, single mom, single parenthood, starting over after abuse, survivor, toxic relationships, vulnerability
Posted on February 12, 2023
by Janna
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I didn’t know about the cookies. Back then I knew about the unbrushed teeth and hair. Limited bathing. He had them looking like ragamuffins. I knew about how the electric company had shut off power because of nonpayment. I knew about the house approaching… Continue Reading “Post-Separation Abuse Often Includes Neglect of the Kids”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, child abuse, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, family court, gaslighting, healing, lies, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, neglect, physical abuse, post-separation abuse, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on February 9, 2023
by Janna
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Do you volunteer? Because I’d like to make the case for adding volunteerism to your arsenal of healing weapons. And here’s why. You make new friends.You gain new skills.You create a difference.You expand your passions. And most important, I think, is that you begin… Continue Reading “Why Volunteerism is a Powerful Healing Tool”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: band, domestic abuse, drama, fine arts, healing, marching band, parent volunteer, self-confidence, self-worth, serving others, show choir, starting over, survivor, volunteer, volunteerism
Posted on January 28, 2023
by Janna
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Proof. My son’s cap and gown for high school graduation came in this week. In May he’ll don the duo, walk alongside his classmates and best friends, and together — with his older sister, now a sophomore in college — we’ll mark one of… Continue Reading “The Proof (and Magic) of Milestones”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, cap and gown, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, family court, gaslighting, graduation, growth, healing, manipulation, milestones, narcissistic abuse, post-separation abuse, Spencer Reid, starting over after abuse, success, survivor
Posted on January 16, 2023
by Janna
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We: create peace favor warmth, and that which is authentic value security make a concerted effort to know and love ourselves share pride in each other stand for what’s right, and defend ourselves celebrate small victories support each other think critically own our responsibilities… Continue Reading “In My (post-abuse & abuse-free) Home”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: domestic abuse, emotional abuse, happy, healing, healthy, home, peaceful, safety, security, starting over after abuse, survivor, well being
Posted on January 11, 2023
by Janna
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What if the reason you’ve spent a lifetime unsure, driven by self-doubt, and habitually second-guessing yourself is that someone(s) who held the most power for impact and effect during your formation (by which I mean formative years, yes, but also beyond: the sum total)… Continue Reading “Why a Life of Second-Guessing?”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: birth order, controlling personalities, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, familial patterns, family dynamics, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, methods of control, narcissistic abuse, patterns, patterns of abuse, power and control, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on December 8, 2022
by Janna
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I have a habit of wishing those who upset me a hearty “F*ck you” in my head. And while I will always insist that anger has a healthy place in our healing, that we should both respect and allow it, I can also acknowledge… Continue Reading “Think Like a Monk (and hurl fewer FU’s)”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Books & Resources, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, anger, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, Harriet Lerner, healing, Jay Shetty, peace, purpose, starting over after abuse, survivor, The Dance of Anger, Think Like a Monk, unresolved anger
Posted on November 14, 2022
by Janna
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Take the selfie. Save the selfie. Share the selfie. Serious and silly. You don’t have to listen to the noise about how our world is “selfie-obsessed” and “self-absorbed.” If you’ve spent any time at all questioning your appearance, hating your body, or harboring low… Continue Reading “It’s Time to Get Comfortable with Yourself”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: body dysmorphia, degradation, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, low self-esteem, manipulation, self-love, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on October 21, 2022
by Janna
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Perspective. It’s important. A friend shared with me the other day that by seeing what someone else was going through in their home, she considered for herself, “Maybe it’s not so bad for me.” I agree with her. When we have tunnel vision our… Continue Reading “Why Perspective May Not Do You Any Favors”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, DVAM2022, emotional abuse, excuses, gaslighting, healing, justification, manipulation, minimization, narcissistic abuse, starting over after abuse, survivor
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