Tag: starting over
Posted on February 9, 2023
by Janna
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Do you volunteer? Because I’d like to make the case for adding volunteerism to your arsenal of healing weapons. And here’s why. You make new friends.You gain new skills.You create a difference.You expand your passions. And most important, I think, is that you begin… Continue Reading “Why Volunteerism is a Powerful Healing Tool”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: band, domestic abuse, drama, fine arts, healing, marching band, parent volunteer, self-confidence, self-worth, serving others, show choir, starting over, survivor, volunteer, volunteerism
Posted on October 27, 2022
by Janna
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One day you’re a newly divorced single mom living in a crappy low-income apartment with no washer/dryer hookups, schlepping as infrequently as possible to the local laundromat to clean everything, in big loads, for your family of three. It’s an awful, detestable chore you… Continue Reading “Life is Cyclical”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse, domestic abuse, healing, starting over
Posted on July 26, 2022
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A reader asks, “How do I follow through with boundaries and keep them up when someone tries to knock them down?” Boundaries are so hard, man. Because, for one, we’re not used to having them, so it’s unnatural and uncomfortable to figure out what… Continue Reading “How Do I Set and Keep Boundaries?”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: after abuse, boundaries, education, empowerment, healing, starting over, survivor
Posted on June 15, 2022
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THEM: “You’ve changed.” YOU: “I had to. Can’t you see?” Not everyone’s going to understand or support the transformation that’s required of your hurting and healing journey. Change anyway. Some will think that when you finally start expressing your opinion, you’re being argumentative. Be… Continue Reading “Change Anyway, Survivor”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: boundaries, healing, independence, life after abuse, starting over, survivor, transformation
Posted on June 4, 2022
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Many pieces of our American society — especially through the arm of Western religion — make you think that forgiveness (releasing another from the harm they’ve done you) is required for your peace and well-being. My hot take is that forgiveness toward the one… Continue Reading “Let’s Talk About Forgiveness”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: boundaries, domestic abuse, DV, education, emotional abuse, empowerment, forgiveness, healing, let it go, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, red flags, starting over, survivor
Posted on May 24, 2022
by Janna
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It’s okay if you don’t know what you’re doing. What’s not okay is anyone in your support system making you feel bad about it. It’s okay if others want to help you. What’s not okay is for them to take control the way your… Continue Reading “What’s Not Okay”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, after abuse, boundaries, emotional abuse, healing, starting over, support, survival, surviving
Posted on June 4, 2021
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The living room is bare but for her secondhand couch, a lone end table, and the anxiety she just can’t shake. He isn’t supposed to visit where she lives now, but that doesn’t still the race in her heart. Will he show up at… Continue Reading “When Power Becomes Hers | flash fiction”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Books & Resources, Living Your Own Life, Self EmpowermentTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, gaslighting, healing, intimidation, knowledge is power, narcissistic abuse, physical abuse, reading, self help, starting over, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on January 7, 2021
by Janna
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WHEN YOUR ABUSER DIES | It was a long marriage that included physical violence, infidelity, and financial abuse — along with the standard psychological tactics, like love bombing, gaslighting, and manipulation. So given everything her husband put her through, and the destructive aftermath he’s responsible for,… Continue Reading “Widow Misses Dead Abuser”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, OpinionTags: abuser death, acute loss, after abuse, death, Domestic Violence, financial abuse, gaslighting, grief, infidelity, left behind, legend, love bombing, manipulation, myth, nostalgia, physical violence, psychological abuse, starting over, widow