Posted on February 12, 2023
by Janna
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I didn’t know about the cookies. Back then I knew about the unbrushed teeth and hair. Limited bathing. He had them looking like ragamuffins. I knew about how the electric company had shut off power because of nonpayment. I knew about the house approaching… Continue Reading “Post-Separation Abuse Often Includes Neglect of the Kids”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, child abuse, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, family court, gaslighting, healing, lies, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, neglect, physical abuse, post-separation abuse, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on January 28, 2023
by Janna
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Proof. My son’s cap and gown for high school graduation came in this week. In May he’ll don the duo, walk alongside his classmates and best friends, and together — with his older sister, now a sophomore in college — we’ll mark one of… Continue Reading “The Proof (and Magic) of Milestones”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, cap and gown, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, family court, gaslighting, graduation, growth, healing, manipulation, milestones, narcissistic abuse, post-separation abuse, Spencer Reid, starting over after abuse, success, survivor
Posted on September 5, 2022
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“Such narrow, domineering rules feel a lot like the way domestic abuse feels.” This essay has been knocking around my noggin for months. Today I blew the dust off my Medium account and hit “publish.” I hope you’ll take a chance to check it… Continue Reading “How Public Housing Perpetuates a Pattern of Control”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, essays, financial abuse, healing, low-income housing, manipulation, Medium, personal essays, post-separation abuse, public housing, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on July 19, 2022
by Janna
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It’s never happened to me with a book before. (Movies, though, more times than I can count.) I bought this one in May while on vacation but only recently started reading. It’s 482 pages. Published in 2016. The plot was all brand new until… Continue Reading “You Could Call It a “Mystery” Book”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Books & Resources, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse, abusive relationships, advocacy, after abuse, anxiety, books, DV, fiction, forgetfulness, gaslighting, healing, Nicholas Sparks, post-separation abuse, projection, psychological abuse, reading, self-care, stonewalling, survivor, trauma
Posted on May 13, 2022
by Janna
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Do you want to talk about financial abuse? Because we should. Financial abuse is a component of domestic abuse 99% of the time. (Source: National Network to End Domestic Violence) It happens when your abuser hides money, spends freely on their wants and needs… Continue Reading “Financial & Post-Separation Abuse”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, debt, discard, domestic abuse, DV, emotional abuse, financial abuse, fraud, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, post-separation abuse, starting over after abuse, stealing, survivor
Posted on February 18, 2022
by Janna
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You’re going to think I’m sharing this for a pat on the back, but I promise I’m not. I’m sharing so that you know how close to home it hits, and that if it’s where you are, I know right along with you —… Continue Reading “For Less Than a Combo Meal”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, Dollar Tree, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, financial abuse, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, money, narcissistic abuse, paying it forward, post-separation abuse, shopping, starting over after abuse, survivor