Tag: narcissistic abuse
Posted on March 7, 2023
by Janna
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Their world is slowly but definitely imploding, you can trust me on that. You may not witness the fall today or tomorrow, but it’s going to happen. Because when you build your life around hurting othersmanipulating the truthstealing money &ruining your creditburning bridgesbreaking the… Continue Reading “Karma & Consequence”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personality Disorders (abusive), Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, breaking the law, burning bridges, consequence, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, karma, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, smoke and mirrors, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on February 12, 2023
by Janna
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I didn’t know about the cookies. Back then I knew about the unbrushed teeth and hair. Limited bathing. He had them looking like ragamuffins. I knew about how the electric company had shut off power because of nonpayment. I knew about the house approaching… Continue Reading “Post-Separation Abuse Often Includes Neglect of the Kids”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, child abuse, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, family court, gaslighting, healing, lies, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, neglect, physical abuse, post-separation abuse, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on January 28, 2023
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Proof. My son’s cap and gown for high school graduation came in this week. In May he’ll don the duo, walk alongside his classmates and best friends, and together — with his older sister, now a sophomore in college — we’ll mark one of… Continue Reading “The Proof (and Magic) of Milestones”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, cap and gown, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, family court, gaslighting, graduation, growth, healing, manipulation, milestones, narcissistic abuse, post-separation abuse, Spencer Reid, starting over after abuse, success, survivor
Posted on January 11, 2023
by Janna
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What if the reason you’ve spent a lifetime unsure, driven by self-doubt, and habitually second-guessing yourself is that someone(s) who held the most power for impact and effect during your formation (by which I mean formative years, yes, but also beyond: the sum total)… Continue Reading “Why a Life of Second-Guessing?”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: birth order, controlling personalities, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, familial patterns, family dynamics, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, methods of control, narcissistic abuse, patterns, patterns of abuse, power and control, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on October 21, 2022
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Perspective. It’s important. A friend shared with me the other day that by seeing what someone else was going through in their home, she considered for herself, “Maybe it’s not so bad for me.” I agree with her. When we have tunnel vision our… Continue Reading “Why Perspective May Not Do You Any Favors”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, DVAM2022, emotional abuse, excuses, gaslighting, healing, justification, manipulation, minimization, narcissistic abuse, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on July 17, 2022
by Janna
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It doesn’t matter what the person who abused you thinks. It doesn’t matter what their enablers think. Or what the people with whom you have a personality conflict. Your bully boss, the manipulative friend. That new person you’re dating—don’t start that connection by caring… Continue Reading “What Other People Think”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, self-confidence, self-empowerment, self-love, self-worth, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on July 11, 2022
by Janna
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Need a reminder today? I’ve got it for you. It’s okay if all you make for dinner is mac & cheese or Ramen. You’re busy trying to heal. It’s okay if the laundry has piled up. You’re busy trying to heal. It’s okay if… Continue Reading “It’s All Okay”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on July 4, 2022
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The superficial, patriotic noise & nationalist pride of today’s America do not bring me joy on this Independence Day, and give me no cause to celebrate. They can have Old Glory. I made my own flag. As a DV survivor, ally, and advocate, I… Continue Reading “I Made My Own Flag”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: 4th of July, abuse survivors, bigotry, Christian nationalism, Christianity, denial of rights, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, fear, Fourth of July, gaslighting, hatred, healing, Independence Day, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, patriotism, patriots, prejudice, starting over after abuse, survivor, white nationalism
Posted on June 19, 2022
by Janna
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Guess what, you? YOU are capable of change and growth and healing. YOU are capable of an authentic life driven by deep joy, satisfaction, and stability. Your abuser is NOT. (A supporting text that will help you understand why is Lundy Bancroft’s book, Why… Continue Reading “A Survivor’s Superpower”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Books & Resources, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Personality Disorders (abusive), Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, authentic happiness, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, joy, Lundy Bancroft, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, responsibility, stability, starting over after abuse, superpower, survivor
Posted on June 12, 2022
by Janna
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Solitude is hard to handle when you’re used to chaos. Being alone is difficult when you’ve been conditioned to codependency. Sitting quietly with only one’s thoughts can be torture when those thoughts are dominated by triggers at every turn, and memories of the abuse.… Continue Reading “Survivor, Give Solitude a Chance”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, chaos, codependence, conditioning, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, independence, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, peace, solitude, starting over after abuse, survivor
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