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Posted on May 13, 2022
by Janna
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Do you want to talk about financial abuse? Because we should. Financial abuse is a component of domestic abuse 99% of the time. (Source: National Network to End Domestic Violence) It happens when your abuser hides money, spends freely on their wants and needs… Continue Reading “Financial & Post-Separation Abuse”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, debt, discard, domestic abuse, DV, emotional abuse, financial abuse, fraud, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, post-separation abuse, starting over after abuse, stealing, survivor
Posted on May 7, 2022
by Janna
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Okay, so your abuser had a traumatic childhood. Something life-changing, perhaps horrifying, happened to them. The stuff nightmares are made of. It was out of their control. Or maybe they were, for example, raised by a detached, materialistic father and callous, dismissive mother, so… Continue Reading “Your Abuser’s Trauma is No Excuse”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, childhood trauma, control, coping techniques, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, starting over after abuse, survivor, therapy, trauma
Posted on April 27, 2022
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Because your abuser never did Things your abuser should have said to you, and meant with every fiber, include: * You’re beautiful. * Thank you for everything you do. * How can I help you today? * You’re talented. * I love your eyes/hair/caboose/brain/fashion… Continue Reading “What to Say to Yourself”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, neglect, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on April 3, 2022
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Three simple words. Many people blow right by them; the phrase doesn’t even register. Those are the people who have never questioned their worth. They don’t carry a deficit in validation. They weren’t devalued, over and over again, by someone who was supposed to… Continue Reading “You Are Enough”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, self-love, self-worth, starting over after abuse, survivor, validation
Posted on March 30, 2022
by Janna
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Let’s review some terms, yeah? Domestic Violence (DV) That word “violence” packs a punch. Many assume violence MUST be physical, but that’s just not so. Violence can happen around you as much as it can happen to you, and it’s not always about kicks… Continue Reading “Understanding Abuse and its Nuances”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, financial abuse, gaslighting, healing, intimate partner violence, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, sexual abuse, spiritual abuse, starting over after abuse, survivor, survivor mentality, victim mentality
Posted on March 28, 2022
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(from a white woman) I feel like, given my platform, I have to say at least this: I’ve long adored Will Smith, and as a fairly devout fan I’m overwhelmed by disappointment. But that disappointment is underpinned by the fact that I carry an… Continue Reading “On Will Smith”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, Chris Rock, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, family trauma, gaslighting, healing, Jada Pinkett Smith, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, Oscars, starting over after abuse, survivor, trauma, violence, Will Smith
Posted on March 27, 2022
by Janna
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Sundays are bittersweet. While I’ve found my peace and carve the day my way now, usually at home, which is my absolute favorite place I remember what it was like before, when I woke up, brainwashed, and just did what was expected of me,… Continue Reading “A Note About Spiritual Abuse”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, church, church abuse, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, organized religion, spiritual abuse, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on March 22, 2022
by Janna
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How often do you remember to pause and center? If you haven’t realized yet, let me tell you that it’s imperative to our hurting and healing journey. Today’s Facebook memories served me this photo and its caption: “I have come to the park to… Continue Reading “Healing and Growth Are Found in Solitude”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, coparenting, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, parenting plans, shared custody, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on March 20, 2022
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What’s your relationship with approval? I ask because I had an epiphany this week. To summarize its cause, I finished Will Smith’s autobiography, WILL, wherein he wrote about his decades-long struggle to gain the approval of others: in his most personal relationships, among friends,… Continue Reading “Whose Permission Do You Need?”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Books & Resources, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, affirmation, approval, autobiographies, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, intimate partner violence, love languages, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, permission, starting over after abuse, survivor, validation, Will Smith
Posted on March 1, 2022
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The weather is beautiful where I live today. Spring is on its way. It reminds me of a time, years ago, when I was still married and my firstborn was around two. My then-husband and I flew with her to Florida for an extended… Continue Reading “Spring Lessons from Long Ago”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, healing journey, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, peace, starting over after abuse, survivor, unsolicited advice
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