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Posted on July 28, 2022
by Janna
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I know it’s hard to ask for help, especially once you’ve internalized you need to leave and it’s time to make a plan. Here’s how I help women (in America) find resources that are local to them. Save this in case you ever need… Continue Reading “How to Get Help and Leave Abuse”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Books & Resources, Living Your Own Life, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, coalitions, community centers, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, DV shelters, emotional abuse, healing, help, leaving abuse, Legal Aid, manipulation, ministerial alliance, resources, safe exit, safe plan, starting over after abuse, survivor, women's shelters, YMCA
Posted on July 22, 2022
by Janna
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“What if this isn’t really abuse?” “It could be worse, right? It’s not like he hits me.” “Maybe she’s right. Maybe I’m overreacting.” Let me help you here. It IS abuse. Truly. You’re just not comfortable with that word yet because it’s a lot… Continue Reading “Abuse is Abuse is Abuse”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse tactics, control, education, emotional abuse, empowerment, financial abuse, healing, manipulation, spiritual abuse, survivor, types of abuse
Posted on July 17, 2022
by Janna
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It doesn’t matter what the person who abused you thinks. It doesn’t matter what their enablers think. Or what the people with whom you have a personality conflict. Your bully boss, the manipulative friend. That new person you’re dating—don’t start that connection by caring… Continue Reading “What Other People Think”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, self-confidence, self-empowerment, self-love, self-worth, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on July 11, 2022
by Janna
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Need a reminder today? I’ve got it for you. It’s okay if all you make for dinner is mac & cheese or Ramen. You’re busy trying to heal. It’s okay if the laundry has piled up. You’re busy trying to heal. It’s okay if… Continue Reading “It’s All Okay”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on July 4, 2022
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The superficial, patriotic noise & nationalist pride of today’s America do not bring me joy on this Independence Day, and give me no cause to celebrate. They can have Old Glory. I made my own flag. As a DV survivor, ally, and advocate, I… Continue Reading “I Made My Own Flag”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: 4th of July, abuse survivors, bigotry, Christian nationalism, Christianity, denial of rights, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, fear, Fourth of July, gaslighting, hatred, healing, Independence Day, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, patriotism, patriots, prejudice, starting over after abuse, survivor, white nationalism
Posted on June 19, 2022
by Janna
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Guess what, you? YOU are capable of change and growth and healing. YOU are capable of an authentic life driven by deep joy, satisfaction, and stability. Your abuser is NOT. (A supporting text that will help you understand why is Lundy Bancroft’s book, Why… Continue Reading “A Survivor’s Superpower”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Books & Resources, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Personality Disorders (abusive), Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, authentic happiness, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, joy, Lundy Bancroft, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, responsibility, stability, starting over after abuse, superpower, survivor
Posted on June 12, 2022
by Janna
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Solitude is hard to handle when you’re used to chaos. Being alone is difficult when you’ve been conditioned to codependency. Sitting quietly with only one’s thoughts can be torture when those thoughts are dominated by triggers at every turn, and memories of the abuse.… Continue Reading “Survivor, Give Solitude a Chance”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, chaos, codependence, conditioning, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, independence, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, peace, solitude, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on June 4, 2022
by Janna
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Many pieces of our American society — especially through the arm of Western religion — make you think that forgiveness (releasing another from the harm they’ve done you) is required for your peace and well-being. My hot take is that forgiveness toward the one… Continue Reading “Let’s Talk About Forgiveness”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: boundaries, domestic abuse, DV, education, emotional abuse, empowerment, forgiveness, healing, let it go, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, red flags, starting over, survivor
Posted on May 17, 2022
by Janna
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My sweet dad took his last breath on this day twelve years ago. I was in the room when it happened. In fact, I was the one who realized he wasn’t breathing anymore. Hospice warns you, you know. They’ve gotten really good at estimating… Continue Reading “Death: Why My Life Started Over”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, catalyst, death, death of a loved one, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, gaslighting, grief, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, reflection, starting over after abuse, survivor, waking up
Posted on May 14, 2022
by Janna
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A reframe Sometimes, to victims learning how to survive, it feels like life is stuck “in the trenches.” We use the idiom when we’re feeling beaten down, challenged, heartbroken, threatened, damaged. When we’ve forgotten our hope. Merriam-Webster defines the phrase as “a place or… Continue Reading “Life in the Trenches”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, DV, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, idioms, life in the trenches, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, protection, self-protection, starting over after abuse, strategy, survivor, trenches, victory
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