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Posted on February 7, 2022
by Janna
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Did you know I’ve created some empowerment tools with you in mind? They took root as I’ve monitored my own journey, and begun to advocate for others. Pictured are two new journals, both available through Amazon. Self-Love Letters is an 8.5×11 workbook for any… Continue Reading “Empowerment Tools Just for You”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advocacy & Education, Books & Resources, Living Your Own Life, Self EmpowermentTags: abuse survivors, Amazon, dating after abuse, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, empowerment tools, free printables, gaslighting, healing, journaling, journals, KDP, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, self-acceptance, self-love, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on February 4, 2022
by Janna
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(If life after abuse were actually a competition) My abuser thinks he’s the responsible one, but I’m the one who’s done the genuine, invested parenting of our two kids. My abuser believes he’s the selfless one, but I’m the one who has sacrificed everything:… Continue Reading “Mentality: Abuser vs. Survivor”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, abuser mentality, competition, dating, dating after abuse, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, financial abuse, gaslighting, healing, hope, lies, manipulation, narcissist supply, narcissistic abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, starting over after abuse, survivor, survivor mentality
Posted on February 1, 2022
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But not everything (and that’s okay) During an abusive relationship we are convinced and conditioned to believe that we can’t do anything right, aren’t smart enough, have no special skills, etc., etc. And, speaking from personal experience here, I think it’s fair to say… Continue Reading “You Can Do Anything”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, expectation of self, gaslighting, healing, high expectations, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, self-acceptance, self-love, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on January 29, 2022
by Janna
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Because that’s where I left my heart My first blog, years ago, was called Something She Wrote. You could enter that phrase into your search bar and find it online; still read the old me. Not sure you’d want to. I don’t. That gal… Continue Reading “Skip Down Memory Lane”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, Breaking the Silence for Women, craft, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, Something She Wrote, starting over after abuse, survivor, writer, writing
Posted on January 29, 2022
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So it’s ALWAYS going to be in a survivor’s best interest to learn how to heal and create a new life for herself after abuse. That’s how she gets her power back. Moving on is “revenge.” But survivors need outspoken and aggressive allies, too.… Continue Reading “Which Half of the Equation Needs to Be Fixed?”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, enabling, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on January 26, 2022
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Survivor, you deserve and owe yourself all the grace in the world. Please remember as you find your backbone, and stabilize your emotions, and learn how to be firm — even “bitchy,” as some will interpret when and where your newfound boundaries demand a… Continue Reading “Your Own Grace”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, DV, emotional abuse, gaslighting, grace, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, self-acceptance, self-love, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on January 9, 2022
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We’ve talked about it before, about how we are shamed and scared into silence by our abusers and our attorneys and the family courts system. We’ve also talked about how being too bold with what we share, especially if we’re involved with family court,… Continue Reading “To Be or Not to Be Quiet About Abuse”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, advocacy, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, empowerment, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, sharing, silence, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on January 7, 2022
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The truth is, you don’t miss your abuser. Not really. It just feels like it because your hurt over being treated so grossly is so big. You miss who they initially pretended to be and hooked you with, and/or the person you wanted them… Continue Reading “What Does It Mean If I Miss My Abuser?”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, codependency, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on December 5, 2021
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There’s a pattern. Some will read this as broad generalization, but the patterns exist because of the patriarchy, because of domestic and financial abuse, and because of how family courts cater to the men who lie about their income and ability to provide for… Continue Reading “Are single men and dads financially abused?”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: court abuse, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, DV, education, emotional abuse, empowerment, enabling, family courts system, financial abuse, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, patterns, starting over after abuse, survivor, the patriarchy
Posted on November 19, 2021
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More victim blaming and shaming. Bystanders love that sh*t, because they think they have it all figured out, and also because they don’t know any better. Survivors do know better. We know that we are in control of very little during the abuse. This… Continue Reading “When Bystanders Think You Gave Your Abuser Permission”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, enablers, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, starting over after abuse, survivor
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