Tag: Domestic Violence

On Will Smith

(from a white woman) I feel like, given my platform, I have to say at least this: I’ve long adored Will Smith, and as a fairly devout fan I’m overwhelmed by disappointment. But that disappointment is underpinned by the fact that I carry an… Continue Reading “On Will Smith”

Spring Lessons from Long Ago

The weather is beautiful where I live today. Spring is on its way. It reminds me of a time, years ago, when I was still married and my firstborn was around two. My then-husband and I flew with her to Florida for an extended… Continue Reading “Spring Lessons from Long Ago”

Why I Made PB Bread

I’ve read that during the Great Depression, women made peanut butter bread because, when so many baking supplies were lacking, they usually had the few needed and shelf-stable ingredients on hand. Tonight I’ve made peanut butter bread because the whim hit, and I had… Continue Reading “Why I Made PB Bread”

You’re Doing Great, Survivor Mama

This coparenting-with-your-abuser thing is probably the gnarliest, most all-consuming challenge of your life. But I want you to know it’s not a competition. Your abuser is behaving as though it is, but it’s not. Let them carry on in such a way. You can… Continue Reading “You’re Doing Great, Survivor Mama”

Empowerment Tools Just for You

Did you know I’ve created some empowerment tools with you in mind? They took root as I’ve monitored my own journey, and begun to advocate for others. Pictured are two new journals, both available through Amazon. Self-Love Letters is an 8.5×11 workbook for any… Continue Reading “Empowerment Tools Just for You”

You Can Do Anything

But not everything (and that’s okay) During an abusive relationship we are convinced and conditioned to believe that we can’t do anything right, aren’t smart enough, have no special skills, etc., etc. And, speaking from personal experience here, I think it’s fair to say… Continue Reading “You Can Do Anything”

Which Half of the Equation Needs to Be Fixed?

So it’s ALWAYS going to be in a survivor’s best interest to learn how to heal and create a new life for herself after abuse. That’s how she gets her power back. Moving on is “revenge.” But survivors need outspoken and aggressive allies, too.… Continue Reading “Which Half of the Equation Needs to Be Fixed?”

Are single men and dads financially abused?

There’s a pattern. Some will read this as broad generalization, but the patterns exist because of the patriarchy, because of domestic and financial abuse, and because of how family courts cater to the men who lie about their income and ability to provide for… Continue Reading “Are single men and dads financially abused?”

Throw Meatloaf, Not Axes

You know those ax throwing places? Hear me out. It’s like that except only for DV survivors, and it’s a three-parter… Room 1 is filled with quiet, kind chefs who walk you through a recipe, from selection to completion. You take pictures of your… Continue Reading “Throw Meatloaf, Not Axes”

About that Thing Abusers (and Enablers) Like to Call “Parental Alienation”

Originally posted on Breaking the Silence for Women 11/6/21. This morning I woke to notification of a comment that has since been deleted by its writer. That’s okay. Either they decided not to risk a public comment that the wrong people might see, or… Continue Reading “About that Thing Abusers (and Enablers) Like to Call “Parental Alienation””