Tag: Domestic Violence
Posted on May 17, 2022
by Janna
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My sweet dad took his last breath on this day twelve years ago. I was in the room when it happened. In fact, I was the one who realized he wasn’t breathing anymore. Hospice warns you, you know. They’ve gotten really good at estimating… Continue Reading “Death: Why My Life Started Over”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, catalyst, death, death of a loved one, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, gaslighting, grief, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, reflection, starting over after abuse, survivor, waking up
Posted on May 7, 2022
by Janna
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Okay, so your abuser had a traumatic childhood. Something life-changing, perhaps horrifying, happened to them. The stuff nightmares are made of. It was out of their control. Or maybe they were, for example, raised by a detached, materialistic father and callous, dismissive mother, so… Continue Reading “Your Abuser’s Trauma is No Excuse”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, childhood trauma, control, coping techniques, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, starting over after abuse, survivor, therapy, trauma
Posted on April 3, 2022
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Three simple words. Many people blow right by them; the phrase doesn’t even register. Those are the people who have never questioned their worth. They don’t carry a deficit in validation. They weren’t devalued, over and over again, by someone who was supposed to… Continue Reading “You Are Enough”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, self-love, self-worth, starting over after abuse, survivor, validation
Posted on March 30, 2022
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Let’s review some terms, yeah? Domestic Violence (DV) That word “violence” packs a punch. Many assume violence MUST be physical, but that’s just not so. Violence can happen around you as much as it can happen to you, and it’s not always about kicks… Continue Reading “Understanding Abuse and its Nuances”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, financial abuse, gaslighting, healing, intimate partner violence, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, sexual abuse, spiritual abuse, starting over after abuse, survivor, survivor mentality, victim mentality
Posted on March 28, 2022
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(from a white woman) I feel like, given my platform, I have to say at least this: I’ve long adored Will Smith, and as a fairly devout fan I’m overwhelmed by disappointment. But that disappointment is underpinned by the fact that I carry an… Continue Reading “On Will Smith”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, Chris Rock, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, family trauma, gaslighting, healing, Jada Pinkett Smith, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, Oscars, starting over after abuse, survivor, trauma, violence, Will Smith
Posted on March 1, 2022
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The weather is beautiful where I live today. Spring is on its way. It reminds me of a time, years ago, when I was still married and my firstborn was around two. My then-husband and I flew with her to Florida for an extended… Continue Reading “Spring Lessons from Long Ago”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, healing journey, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, peace, starting over after abuse, survivor, unsolicited advice
Posted on February 28, 2022
by Janna
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I’ve read that during the Great Depression, women made peanut butter bread because, when so many baking supplies were lacking, they usually had the few needed and shelf-stable ingredients on hand. Tonight I’ve made peanut butter bread because the whim hit, and I had… Continue Reading “Why I Made PB Bread”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, baking, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, healing, kitchen trauma, kitchen triggers, peanut butter bread, recipes, Sprinkle Bakes, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on February 27, 2022
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This coparenting-with-your-abuser thing is probably the gnarliest, most all-consuming challenge of your life. But I want you to know it’s not a competition. Your abuser is behaving as though it is, but it’s not. Let them carry on in such a way. You can… Continue Reading “You’re Doing Great, Survivor Mama”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, coparenting, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, parenting, single moms, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on February 7, 2022
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Did you know I’ve created some empowerment tools with you in mind? They took root as I’ve monitored my own journey, and begun to advocate for others. Pictured are two new journals, both available through Amazon. Self-Love Letters is an 8.5×11 workbook for any… Continue Reading “Empowerment Tools Just for You”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advocacy & Education, Books & Resources, Living Your Own Life, Self EmpowermentTags: abuse survivors, Amazon, dating after abuse, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, empowerment tools, free printables, gaslighting, healing, journaling, journals, KDP, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, self-acceptance, self-love, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on February 1, 2022
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But not everything (and that’s okay) During an abusive relationship we are convinced and conditioned to believe that we can’t do anything right, aren’t smart enough, have no special skills, etc., etc. And, speaking from personal experience here, I think it’s fair to say… Continue Reading “You Can Do Anything”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, expectation of self, gaslighting, healing, high expectations, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, self-acceptance, self-love, starting over after abuse, survivor