Tag: Domestic Violence

Death: Why My Life Started Over

My sweet dad took his last breath on this day twelve years ago. I was in the room when it happened. In fact, I was the one who realized he wasn’t breathing anymore. Hospice warns you, you know. They’ve gotten really good at estimating… Continue Reading “Death: Why My Life Started Over”

Your Abuser’s Trauma is No Excuse

Okay, so your abuser had a traumatic childhood. Something life-changing, perhaps horrifying, happened to them. The stuff nightmares are made of. It was out of their control. Or maybe they were, for example, raised by a detached, materialistic father and callous, dismissive mother, so… Continue Reading “Your Abuser’s Trauma is No Excuse”

You Are Enough

Three simple words. Many people blow right by them; the phrase doesn’t even register. Those are the people who have never questioned their worth. They don’t carry a deficit in validation. They weren’t devalued, over and over again, by someone who was supposed to… Continue Reading “You Are Enough”

Understanding Abuse and its Nuances

Let’s review some terms, yeah? Domestic Violence (DV) That word “violence” packs a punch. Many assume violence MUST be physical, but that’s just not so. Violence can happen around you as much as it can happen to you, and it’s not always about kicks… Continue Reading “Understanding Abuse and its Nuances”

On Will Smith

(from a white woman) I feel like, given my platform, I have to say at least this: I’ve long adored Will Smith, and as a fairly devout fan I’m overwhelmed by disappointment. But that disappointment is underpinned by the fact that I carry an… Continue Reading “On Will Smith”

Spring Lessons from Long Ago

The weather is beautiful where I live today. Spring is on its way. It reminds me of a time, years ago, when I was still married and my firstborn was around two. My then-husband and I flew with her to Florida for an extended… Continue Reading “Spring Lessons from Long Ago”

Why I Made PB Bread

I’ve read that during the Great Depression, women made peanut butter bread because, when so many baking supplies were lacking, they usually had the few needed and shelf-stable ingredients on hand. Tonight I’ve made peanut butter bread because the whim hit, and I had… Continue Reading “Why I Made PB Bread”

You’re Doing Great, Survivor Mama

This coparenting-with-your-abuser thing is probably the gnarliest, most all-consuming challenge of your life. But I want you to know it’s not a competition. Your abuser is behaving as though it is, but it’s not. Let them carry on in such a way. You can… Continue Reading “You’re Doing Great, Survivor Mama”

Empowerment Tools Just for You

Did you know I’ve created some empowerment tools with you in mind? They took root as I’ve monitored my own journey, and begun to advocate for others. Pictured are two new journals, both available through Amazon. Self-Love Letters is an 8.5×11 workbook for any… Continue Reading “Empowerment Tools Just for You”

You Can Do Anything

But not everything (and that’s okay) During an abusive relationship we are convinced and conditioned to believe that we can’t do anything right, aren’t smart enough, have no special skills, etc., etc. And, speaking from personal experience here, I think it’s fair to say… Continue Reading “You Can Do Anything”