Tag: Domestic Violence
Posted on June 27, 2021
by Janna
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“At least he doesn’t hit me.” Raise your hand if ever that was part of your inner monologue. Physical abuse is the easiest to see and prove. That’s why some abusers avoid it, and choose — yes, CHOOSE — the “quiet” and “subtle” abuses.… Continue Reading “Abuse Isn’t Always Physical”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Personality Disorders (abusive), Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, financial abuse, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, psychological abuse, sexual abuse, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on June 22, 2021
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Revisit the places where you cried, fought, or felt tiny, and reclaim them in your strength Last year I drove by myself to Des Moines from the Kansas City area. It was a Saturday in May, nice weather. An impulsive decision. I decided to… Continue Reading “Reclaim the Places of Hurting”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, starting over after abuse, survival, survivor
Posted on June 16, 2021
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We each have our own pace. Our own awareness. Our own willingness. Our own awakening. That is our hope, anyway. Right? That each victim awakens and undergoes her journey toward survival and then, eventually, she thrives. The other day I used the term “willful… Continue Reading “She May Not Leave Because…”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on June 14, 2021
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Sometimes it’s as simple as wearing a smile on your face, and being so, so careful about how much you say and to whom, so that no one knows how bad it really is. Sometimes it’s more grandiose, a kind of overcompensation meant to… Continue Reading “Impression Management is the Game”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advocacy & Education, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, gaslighting, Impression Management, manipulation, narcissistic abuse
Posted on June 13, 2021
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People assume it’s the hard wood of a church pew that makes it so uncomfortable for long periods. But a woman who’s had to listen to a sermon about love and kindness and humility and doing for others and forgiveness, etc., etc., while sitting… Continue Reading “Sunday Spirituality”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, spiritual abuse, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on June 4, 2021
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The living room is bare but for her secondhand couch, a lone end table, and the anxiety she just can’t shake. He isn’t supposed to visit where she lives now, but that doesn’t still the race in her heart. Will he show up at… Continue Reading “When Power Becomes Hers | flash fiction”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Books & Resources, Living Your Own Life, Self EmpowermentTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, gaslighting, healing, intimidation, knowledge is power, narcissistic abuse, physical abuse, reading, self help, starting over, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on January 31, 2021
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MY FRIEND NEEDS TO LEAVE HER ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP | Landen G. recently reached out to ask how to support a good friend who admits that her partner is abusive. [Statements edited slightly for flow.] “How do I encourage her to seek help?” LG asks.… Continue Reading “What to Do When Your Friend or Loved One Confides About Abuse”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuser, being a supportive friend, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, healing, helping a loved one, journey, physical violence, psychological abuse, strength, survivor
Posted on January 17, 2021
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UNITY FOLLOWING ABUSE IS NOT POSSIBLE | When a woman leaves her abusive partner — that is, truly leaves after however many prior attempts, and has finally made it clear she will not return to the relationship — he will try, with his arsenal… Continue Reading “Survivor Healing Cannot Begin with the Abuser at the Helm”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Opinion, Self EmpowermentTags: abuse tactics, Democrats, disinformation, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, friendship, gaslighting, healing, manipulation, misinformation, projection, Republicans, Trump, Trumpism, unity
Posted on January 7, 2021
by Janna
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WHEN YOUR ABUSER DIES | It was a long marriage that included physical violence, infidelity, and financial abuse — along with the standard psychological tactics, like love bombing, gaslighting, and manipulation. So given everything her husband put her through, and the destructive aftermath he’s responsible for,… Continue Reading “Widow Misses Dead Abuser”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, OpinionTags: abuser death, acute loss, after abuse, death, Domestic Violence, financial abuse, gaslighting, grief, infidelity, left behind, legend, love bombing, manipulation, myth, nostalgia, physical violence, psychological abuse, starting over, widow
Posted on January 2, 2021
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A DV CASEWORKER MISTREATS A CLIENT | Mama M from Kentucky says, “My question is in regard to staying in a domestic violence shelter. What do you do when you’re mistreated by one of the caseworkers? They mocked me and played psychological warfare to… Continue Reading “Caseworker Mistreatment”
Category: Advice, Advocacy & Education, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, advocacy, advocating, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, DV, DV caseworkers, DV shelters, empowerment, self-empowerment
