Tag: abuse survivors
Posted on March 7, 2023
by Janna
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Their world is slowly but definitely imploding, you can trust me on that. You may not witness the fall today or tomorrow, but it’s going to happen. Because when you build your life around hurting othersmanipulating the truthstealing money &ruining your creditburning bridgesbreaking the… Continue Reading “Karma & Consequence”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personality Disorders (abusive), Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, breaking the law, burning bridges, consequence, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, gaslighting, healing, karma, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, smoke and mirrors, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on February 12, 2023
by Janna
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I didn’t know about the cookies. Back then I knew about the unbrushed teeth and hair. Limited bathing. He had them looking like ragamuffins. I knew about how the electric company had shut off power because of nonpayment. I knew about the house approaching… Continue Reading “Post-Separation Abuse Often Includes Neglect of the Kids”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, child abuse, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, family court, gaslighting, healing, lies, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, neglect, physical abuse, post-separation abuse, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on January 28, 2023
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Proof. My son’s cap and gown for high school graduation came in this week. In May he’ll don the duo, walk alongside his classmates and best friends, and together — with his older sister, now a sophomore in college — we’ll mark one of… Continue Reading “The Proof (and Magic) of Milestones”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, cap and gown, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, family court, gaslighting, graduation, growth, healing, manipulation, milestones, narcissistic abuse, post-separation abuse, Spencer Reid, starting over after abuse, success, survivor
Posted on January 14, 2023
by Janna
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Just promise you won’t forget how amazing you are. When it feels like no one is in your corner, that no one is rallying, no one is standing by to throw you a life raft. It’s just you and your tried-and-true sink-or-swim determination. You… Continue Reading “A Promise for Me and You”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse, abuse of women, abuse survivors, advocacy, after abuse, authentic happiness, busy life, challenge, changes, choosing life, determination, domestic abuse, education, emotional abuse, emotional health, saving yourself, strength, survival
Posted on December 8, 2022
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I have a habit of wishing those who upset me a hearty “F*ck you” in my head. And while I will always insist that anger has a healthy place in our healing, that we should both respect and allow it, I can also acknowledge… Continue Reading “Think Like a Monk (and hurl fewer FU’s)”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Books & Resources, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, anger, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, Harriet Lerner, healing, Jay Shetty, peace, purpose, starting over after abuse, survivor, The Dance of Anger, Think Like a Monk, unresolved anger
Posted on October 21, 2022
by Janna
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Perspective. It’s important. A friend shared with me the other day that by seeing what someone else was going through in their home, she considered for herself, “Maybe it’s not so bad for me.” I agree with her. When we have tunnel vision our… Continue Reading “Why Perspective May Not Do You Any Favors”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, DVAM2022, emotional abuse, excuses, gaslighting, healing, justification, manipulation, minimization, narcissistic abuse, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on September 5, 2022
by Janna
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“Such narrow, domineering rules feel a lot like the way domestic abuse feels.” This essay has been knocking around my noggin for months. Today I blew the dust off my Medium account and hit “publish.” I hope you’ll take a chance to check it… Continue Reading “How Public Housing Perpetuates a Pattern of Control”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, essays, financial abuse, healing, low-income housing, manipulation, Medium, personal essays, post-separation abuse, public housing, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on August 7, 2022
by Janna
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You’ll lose people along your journey. Sometimes it’s because they enable the one who abused you, therefore you cannot maintain connection with them. Sometimes it’s because they believe the lies and rumors, the smear campaign about you, and forsake their connection to you. Sometimes… Continue Reading “What You Sacrifice to Find Yourself”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, boundaries, discard, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, enabling, gaslighting, healing, lies, manipulation, people-pleasing, sacrifice, smear campaign, starting over after abuse, survivor, woke
Posted on August 5, 2022
by Janna
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It happened again last night. I saw someone from Our Story out of context. We were at a community event, both my kids and me. A man passed by and he looked familiar. Something about the dark hair and glasses. My eyes kept wandering… Continue Reading “Triggers in the Wild”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Living Your Own Life, Opinion, Personal Essay, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, custody cases, custody modification, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, family court, family court judges, healing, manipulation, starting over after abuse, survivor
Posted on July 28, 2022
by Janna
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I know it’s hard to ask for help, especially once you’ve internalized you need to leave and it’s time to make a plan. Here’s how I help women (in America) find resources that are local to them. Save this in case you ever need… Continue Reading “How to Get Help and Leave Abuse”
Category: Abuse Against Women, Advice, Advocacy & Education, Books & Resources, Living Your Own Life, Self Empowerment, Self ImprovementTags: abuse survivors, coalitions, community centers, domestic abuse, Domestic Violence, DV shelters, emotional abuse, healing, help, leaving abuse, Legal Aid, manipulation, ministerial alliance, resources, safe exit, safe plan, starting over after abuse, survivor, women's shelters, YMCA
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