Here’s another reason we MUST bring ourselves to a secure place after abuse. It’s hard to admit but we are vulnerable at first. We have been denied so much, for a long time, and we …
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writer, editor, marketing assistant, resume consultant, mom, wannabe philosopher, advocate, and possibilitarian / you can call me Janna
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New Survivors Are Prey for Other Abusers
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Guilt by Conditioning
I remember how the sight of a law enforcement officer or police car would shoot my heart into my throat. Just a reflex. Not something I thought about. It was involuntary and awful, that anxiety. …
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Do What He Never Wanted You to Do
write bake run marathons make jewelry take photos start a business volunteer craft beer form a band design pursue an education dance build things travel listen learn grow You know that one thing he always …
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You Can’t Change Your Abuser
< This is why, as a survivor, you must focus on yourself. Work on your own understanding and healing. Learn how to set boundaries and stick to them. Move forward toward your own health and …
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How to Talk Yourself Through Loneliness After Leaving Abuse
It’s not easy being single. It’s particularly tough being single after an abusive marriage or relationship, wherein you were denied the basic wants and needs of love, warmth, and respect. It’s simple — and absolutely …
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An Illustration of Growth
My fifteen-year-old daughter is in her high school’s show choir. These talented teens audition each spring, and they find out who makes the cut before summer break. Then, as the new school year begins, …
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NEW FEATURE: Friday Q&A 6
Q | How soon should I start to date after leaving an abusive relationship? A | The only right answer is not to rush it. Given how much love, honor, respect, romance—I could …
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NEW FEATURE: Friday Q&A 5
Q | Why do so many women go for the “bad boy” and then regret it when they realize he’s abusive? A | The majority of abusers do not present as bad boys. They …
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NEW FEATURE: Friday Q&A 4
Q | How do I tell my family and friends that I think I’m being abused? A | You tell whoever makes the most sense to you, whenever and however it makes sense to …
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NEW FEATURE: Friday Q&A 3
Q | How can you know what an abuser is really capable of, or what extreme he’ll go to? [Disclaimer: My answers for this feature are based on a mixture of personal experience, training …