“Violence” implies a physical attack, but there are others types of abuse, just as harmful, just as terrible. And even if you’ve only been hit by your spouse once, I’d wager to say another abuse is present in your home.
NONE of it is okay. It’s NOT your fault. You DO deserve better. And you CAN get out, heal yourself, and move on. Please believe me. If you’re the victim of any kind of abuse — even if you’re not sure but you know something isn’t right — find someone to talk to. A loved one. Someone you trust. Call an anonymous hotline.
You can find your way, and this is true all the time, but October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and so thus my post now. This is really, really important.
Here’s a resource that looks like a decent starting point, if nothing else: http://nnedv.org/getinvolved/dvam.html.